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Old 19 Feb 2006, 14:02   #1 (permalink)
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Hmm, well. I do not have feeling more for my girlfriend anymore.

So I decided to take action.

How to put this... I stopped talking to her, well not as much as we used to and she became suspicious and I gave her reasons for why I wasn't talking much.

Now, for this dumping situation, would I be called an asshole at school, or should this be a cool letdown? ???

I'm confused at this point.
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Let her down slowly is your best bet... unless she really deserves being dropped cold turkey (and many girls out there do).
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Old 19 Feb 2006, 14:11   #3 (permalink)
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Heh, thanks Wargamer.
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Old 20 Feb 2006, 16:34   #4 (permalink)
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I'd say just make it as smooth as possible. Just because you have no feelings for her doesn't mean you have to hurt her right?

Just be as nice as you can about it. Try not to hurt anyone in the process is the biggest concern.

Were you friends before or did you just hook up? Because if you were friends try to go back to becoming friends.

Also I'm moving this to the enclave. This isn't really a religious of political debate
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She will be hurt no matter what you do. Be honest and she'll have little to gripe about.
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Consider what you would want her to do if the situation was reversed. (ie. she would want you to break up, you wouldn´t) Then act by this.



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You need the Simpsons, my friend...just write her a letter...

Dear Baby, welcome to dumpsville. Population: YOU.

Seriously...I got 'let go' on Boxing Day 2004 at 2.00am via SMS by my fiancee after just proposing to her the day before. It's easy to recover. I mean...it's not like I turned into a bitter and twisted monster or anything...I only never trusted a woman again until now...and even then, that's within reason :-\
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3 simple steps.

1-Punch her in the face
2-Tell her she is a worhtless peice of $**T and that you don't love her anymore and possible never did
3-Act like you never knew her.

There it is...

Okay i'll be serious, for a quick drop off simple take her aside and tell her how you feel straight out. To drop it slowly, well thats harder to do.
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Lying about it or delaying it is cruel to her, far moreso than the truth. It's HARD to say "I don't want you anymore" to someone unless you're especially blunt and heartless like I am (and, bear in mind, that that heartlessness applies to everyone except for about 3-4 people, who have 'special' status). It's going to hurt her, devastate her and if people believe her stories, make you look unpleasant. Deal with it. Relationships in school for most people are a complex web of politics. There's backstabbing, lying, deceiving, swapping, cheating and every other conniving hidden activity beneath the smiles, hugs and such of teenage 'love'.

It's a harsh and bitter reality but that's how I view most people's own views towards relationships, I just formalise (well, generalise :P) them bluntly. It's about getting what you want out of a temporary coalition, friends are there to benefit you and if they don't- get rid of them, it's about your image, your status and your overall ability to influence everyone else. School is like a political game...a GAME. Relationships are just one of the many levels on which this game works. Approach it like that and you can overcome any problem...
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Old 26 Feb 2006, 20:57   #10 (permalink)
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I've got an idea... tell her the truth. Go up to her and say...

"Babe, I'm having a problem... I'm not attracted to you as much..."

She may slap you, or give you the 'lets be friends talk'. Who knows? She may be feeling the same way, but shes too scared/embaressed to tell you.

Good luck!

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