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Old 18 Nov 2005, 19:24   #1 (permalink)
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OK, so I go to school with this girl. I have known her for years, since primary school and our mums are good friends. The thing that bothers me is that we never used to talk but now we start talking occasionally on MSN and there are some good conversations but i think i like her.
This fact changes everything because now i become really embarrassed when she is around, when I'm on msn talking it is fine however when we talk at school the conversations are much shorter and i become extremely nervous and embarrassed. The thing is people say we would be good for each other but i have these sudden nervous attacks. Any suggestion would be greatly appreciated!

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Old 18 Nov 2005, 19:25   #2 (permalink)
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How old are ya? This is important for my answer.
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Old 18 Nov 2005, 19:29   #3 (permalink)
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Ok this answer would probably encite a string of 'this is only teenage hormones not your true feelings' posts but here it is im 14
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Old 18 Nov 2005, 19:51   #4 (permalink)
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I WOULD have said "Get Drunk First" If you were older. As it is, try meditation.
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Old 18 Nov 2005, 19:59   #5 (permalink)
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Meditation? guess i could give it a go
Another factor is that i am very self conscious and i feel that i am not happy with my body and embarrassed of how i look whenever near her.
Just a quick question what would meditation do to help?
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Nervous and shy eh? hmm....

The only thing I can come up with is to do things with her that don't require much thought. Movies and such, where you're just together, are good for that. Just try to get to be more comfortable in your own skin around her, and stand tall; don't slouch. Even if you feel nervous, stand tall and smile; you'll feel much better. (it really does help)
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Old 18 Nov 2005, 21:43   #7 (permalink)
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Nervous and shy eh?* hmm....

and stand tall; don't slouch.* Even if you feel nervous, stand tall and smile; you'll feel much better.* (it really does help)
Lol the thing is i am considered short but i have started growing abit, this is again alot to do with my being self conscious. I try to smile while around her but sometimes its as if i want to talk but my brain is numb.
One more thing in her MSN blog she admires one of my best friends because of his musical ability, this links in with me getting a guitar. If i got a guitar and learnt how to play it well would she like me further?
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If i got a guitar and learnt how to play it well would she like me further?
Maybe, but that shouldn't be reason alone to do it.

Women (or girls in this case) like guys who are passionate about their hobbies, if those hobbies are things like music, writing, or books. If you really want to learn guitar for yourself, then do it, and enjoy it- she'll probably really appreciate that about you.

The other thing about women is the fact that they are VERY keen on confidence. Confidence (not arrogance) is HUGE for a lot of women, so please keep that in mind. If you seem nervous or uncomfortable around her- it can be a real turn-off, so it's something to work on.

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LOL- aka Liquid Courage. I had to resort to this on my first date with my current girlfriend, as she was the first girl to make me nervous in a long, long time. Sake was my "courage of choice". ;D

Last night we were at that sushi bar where we had our first date, laughing about how nervous I was....
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Meditation would (in theory) relax you.
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One more thing in her MSN blog she admires one of my best friends because of his musical ability, this links in with me getting a guitar. If i got a guitar and learnt how to play it well would she like me further?
Don't try to pretend to be someone you aren't. Trust me - it never works, for relationships built on deception always break down.

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The only thing I can come up with is to do things with her that don't require much thought. Movies and such, where you're just together, are good for that. Just try to get to be more comfortable in your own skin around her, and stand tall; don't slouch. Even if you feel nervous, stand tall and smile; you'll feel much better. (it really does help)

This is perfect advice.
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